The Difference Between Being Visible and Being Seen

A Story from Building Becoming Familiar™

Standing in front of a full room of people never scared me. Yet this did.

I’ve taught for well over two decades. Large classes, packed rooms,  being visible was never a problem. But building something new was different. This wasn’t teaching from something I already felt extremely comfortable with.  I was still figuring something out with this work & that felt off, in a way I didn’t expect.

The Pattern I Didn’t See

I love teaching but it’s always to a safe “audience.” A group I already had trust with, who were there for authentic reasons, who came to know me & the way I teach. The thought of being completely visible in a new light, with new methods & to audiences that can be occasionally be brutal (yes, the lovely troll-types) really bothered me.

As Becoming Familiar™ took shape, something became impossible for me to ignore: if this was going to grow, reach more people, and actually help the people it was built for, I couldn’t keep leading from behind that safety. I had to become the face of it. Fully.

What Was Actually Underneath It

That’s when I understood what the “off” feeling really was: it was the part of me that had learned that being fully seen was genuinely not safe.

It wasn’t shyness. I’d spent twenty-four years proving that wasn’t it. It was a nervous system that had learned, somewhere, that this kind of visible -  new, unproven wasn’t safe.

Sadly my teenage years were still running the show. High school was also brutal.  I was verbally bullied pretty much every day by older girls in my town & there was also a physical attack by a ‘delightful” local girl who then terrified me for years after.

I Couldn’t Think My Way Out Of It

I didn’t think my way out of it. Insight alone doesn’t move a nervous system , I knew intellectually the issue. But nothing changed.

What moved it was somatic attunement: coming into contact with the future version of me who already lives free of “it.”

Not visualizing her from a distance but attuning to her, how it felt to live like her, be her & her energy.

Something in my body let go. A knot I didn’t even know I’d been carrying, gone.

Safe -  for the first time, around this thing that had kept rearing it’s little head for years.

Seeing Her Clearly

In that safety, I saw her clearly: the face of this work. Not hidden behind humor. Not filtered. Because Becoming Familiar™ can’t be led by someone who’s still hiding from the very thing she’s teaching people to do.

The fear can still show up. It just doesn’t get to run the show anymore.

What Becoming Familiar™ Actually Is

It’s not visualizing a goal from the outside.

But its attuning to who you already are on the other side of the fear, in your body, until it believes it, it recognizes it & that energy becomes familiar.

Maybe it's being seen. Maybe it's the pull toward abundance you can't quite let yourself have. Maybe it's a quieter kind of confidence, or just the ache for more peace?

Whatever your version of "off" is, Becoming Familiar™ is built to meet it, through the same process that moved mine.

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